• Love is in the Air on Valentine's Day

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    JASMINE_JONES
    Published on 01-19-2012 04:46 AM
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    Valentine's Day HeartStore aisles are filled with candy, cards, stuffed animals, balloons, and flowers. Red, pink, and white hearts litter the landscape. Ads promise kisses and affection as a result of a gift of sparkly jewelry. Love is in the air. Capitalism is flourishing.

    Heralded as the holiday of love with origins shrouded in mystery, Valentine's Day has become one of the most exploited and celebrated of holidays. Rumored to be the result of the ancient festival of Lupercalia, which apparently resembled a fertility ceremony involving sacrificial animals and the smearing of animal blood on girls and young women, it has become, a capitalist's dream and apparently just about every man's nightmare.

    What should be a day recognized for the remembrance of romance and love has become an aberration of sugary sweet confections, freshly cut flowers, overpriced dinners, sentimental greeting cards, and sparkly jewelry.    Valentine's Day Heart Shaped Candy

    Generally speaking (there are always exceptions), women are expected to be pampered and men are expected to deliver. Men are under a lot of pressure on this day. Right or wrong, similarly to an engagement ring, their actions/purchases are a direct representation for their love and devotion. I could be mistaken, but I wasn't aware you could put a price tag on love.

    It isn't that I don't like candy, flowers, or jewelry, but I think a kind or sentimental gesture speaks volumes far greater than anything that can be purchased. I don't 'think' I am alone in this thought.

    9 gift ideas that don't need to be purchased and can be given on any day.
    1. Unsolicited body massage
    2. Handwritten poetry from the heart
    3. Handmade card
    4. Hand-picked flowers
    5. Unsolicited hugs and kisses
    6. Love notes
    7. Homemade cookies and confections
    8. A picnic in the backyard
    9. Breakfast in bed


    It isn't easy or always possible, but I like to think of everyday as an opportunity to demonstrate your love to the special people in your life. Fortunately for me (and yes I am bragging a little because I have the best man ever) He makes me feel adored and cherished every day with his display of loving gestures. Red Rose

    If you are in a relationship and you are only shown affection or appreciation one day out of the year because it is expected, then I think you should re-evaluate your relationship. Love is reciprocation of affections, mutual respect, and appreciation.

    For this Valentine's Day, celebrate love by not going shopping. Think of something sweet you can do for your sweetie.     JJ
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    Comments 17 Comments
    1. catowoman's Avatar
      catowoman - 01-19-2012, 05:37 AM
      This 214, its action speaks louder than gifts. And with Jasmine’s gift ideas, a man can make everyday a Valentine’s Day for his woman.
    1. nene5's Avatar
      nene5 - 01-20-2012, 05:24 AM
      This is a great article. I really like suggestion number 1. Who wouldn't love an unsolicited massage?
    1. elitebag's Avatar
      elitebag - 01-22-2012, 03:40 AM
      Many lovers want to do well at valentine's day.It is a romantic day to share .Some men are not romantic ,but this day they will show best to their lover.
    1. Lee11's Avatar
      Lee11 - 01-26-2012, 09:03 PM
      What a refreshing article. Almost everything is geared towards selling you something with the approach of Valentines Day. So much pressure.

      This article brought everything back to basics - back to the heart, where the focus ought to be. And yes, a man or woman who really and truly loves you will SHOW you every day...not merely TELL you or gift you one day.

      For me, personally - the gift of time says a lot...do they want to spend as much time with you...or away from you? I think that action speaks volumes and should be listened to and heard.

      We are returning back to Love, and this article proves it to me. Thank you so much.
    1. zaerine's Avatar
      zaerine - 01-27-2012, 03:21 AM
      The article was so nice as it had good points of what things will really matter. Spending time with someone you love is a good way to show that you are making them your priority and you will make time just to be with them. And actions really speaks louder than words but of course saying you love and you care together with translating that into action will be the best language of love.
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      scrollworm - 01-28-2012, 06:39 AM
      Red wine with the sweetheart is one more good suggestion. Looking at photo albums and watching memories in CD's is another good one. My dad would always talk about their first date and their marriage during Valentine's. I admit when I was a kid, I wasn't thrilled about it and I found it weird for parents to tell us kids about their first days. Now, I'm full-grown and twenty-five, I realized I was the weird one. I'm so proud of my parents...
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      Lovinmy4d's - 01-30-2012, 10:54 PM
      I find it so refreshing to just not have to stress on this holiday. I married late. I spent way to many years single, giving this holiday way to much power. Now, I see it as an opportunity to be grateful. A night in with my hubby and kids and I'm a happy, happy wife.
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      trufate19806 - 02-01-2012, 04:41 AM
      This was a really great article to read! For some time now, valentine's day has forced people (specifically men) to meet the expectations they are required to meet for their significant other. When I was younger, I looked forward to this day and thought it was all about the man wooing the woman! As the years progressed, I realized that it isn't neccesarily about the men pulling tricks out of their hats to accomodate their loved ones and make them feel special. I agree that this is something that should be mirrored everyday for the individual you love both man and woman! People shouldn't have to wait for this one day out of the year to declare their love to their spouse just because they know it going to be publicly recognized by one's peers. Love should be expressed consistently between two people who share that kind of connection. Each individual should always feel like they are adoredd and cherished. I'm not sure how I would handle having to wait all the way to february of each year to be shown the love and affection my husband has for me. I think february should be a reminder for couples of how much harder they should be working to make sure they are showing one another how much they mean to eachother!
    1. mommyjoyce's Avatar
      mommyjoyce - 02-01-2012, 07:33 AM
      For me, personally - the gift of time says a lot...do they want to spend as much time with you...or away from you? I think that action speaks volumes and should be listened to and heard.

      I agree with our friend here. The gift of TIME is for me, as always and as ever, ... the best gift we can ever give to people we love!
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      mommyjoyce - 02-01-2012, 07:37 AM
      trufate, yes...that is how love should be. Love expressed is love that grows consistently. There is special date for expressing love. BUT, on second thought, looking at another perspective, celebration of valentine's internationally is like a united celebration of love. Let's call it the culmination of love expressed the rest of the year? How about that? ^_^

      (PS... I would love to be given time and a special date, on that day. Why not? When the air is filled with baking heart cookies and cakes! hmmm Smell love in the air!)
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      j_pin - 02-17-2012, 08:13 PM
      I always hate getting tore bought items on Valentine's. I just feel it is so thoughtful and forced. That's why I loved this article! It is so much better to give gifts like massages and home baked goods.
    1. alr2988's Avatar
      alr2988 - 02-20-2012, 01:32 AM
      Love notes are my favorite. You can leave a quick note for the one you love anytime. It doesn't have to be because you feel obligated or because it's commercially geared holiday.
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      Cluster One - 02-20-2012, 09:08 PM
      Chocolate is my kryptonite and my boyfriend knows it very well. But I think the more important, I expect the truth, because sometimes "bribe" doesn't work. All good so far but I guess always can get better. I also appreciate Valentine's because it's a special day but not for gifts... Best regards to all
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      Unregistered - 02-22-2012, 04:42 PM
      I couldn't agree more. I am constantly setting up little surprises for my husband. His favorite memory was coming home from working a long day, in the middle of August. I had decorated the entire house in Valentines day decorations, and cooked his favorite meal. He was so touched that I had just decided we needed to celebrate our marriage, for no reason at all. He does the same for me. I love public displays of affection. He has come to my job while I'm working, and decorated my car, leaving a rose on the seat, with a nice hot coffee waiting for me when I get out of work. There is no better way to end a bad day at work, than walking outside to see that your husband wrote the words "I love you McAwesome Pants" on your windshield for the world to see.
    1. thrifty's Avatar
      thrifty - 02-27-2012, 06:54 PM
      There are some great ideas in here :-) Thanks for sharing and reminding me to take some time out and enjoy the love. I can't wait to try some of these on my husband.
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      dashboardc33 - 03-06-2012, 06:50 PM
      I think my favorite is #1 as well. There is nothing better than a full deep body massage. This is also a great way to save money and get romantic with the one you love. Great suggestions for any Valentine's Day!
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      Howardleaten - 05-15-2012, 02:02 PM
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