Tips for a Successful Relationship

This is really a thoughtful article. Sometimes in a relationship we forget it's also about pleasing the other person. You become combative and that's never a good or productive thing.

After reading this article, I can really understand why some relationships don't work out. It is hard work or at the very least something that you have to purposely work to sustain. I think you have to start with a basic attraction (physical, emotional, etc) to be willing to do all these things for your significant other.

It really is important to let go of things. My husband has Asperger's Syndrome, and if I were to hold onto all the little things he has said or done that were thoughtless, we'd never have lasted six months! It's the same way with any relationship, not just one with a lover. Even your best friend is going to get tired of you if you bring up some slight from the fourth grade. Quality time is so hard to get though. We only have one child thankfully, but even then some days it seems impossible to get the quality time we really need. But it is important and it really does help, especially when you hit a rough patch.

I think, Communication, respect, quality time, and love are the most important factors when it comes to love! These four things will give you the kind of relationship that you like; it many not be perfect, but if you put these four things in your heart, I am sure that your relationship will be better, and will turn everything into positive.

These are great tips and i really think that spending quality time together is very important in every relationship you should always make your partner feel special.

I personally think that one of the biggest challenges is learning to fight fair. It is so easy to get caught up in the negative emotions and the drama of fights. Fighting fair is so important. It's also important to learn how to agree to disagree without hurt and sad feelings.

Fabulous article! I've been married for 8 years now and dating my husband for more than 15. We were high schools sweethearts and although we did have our rough patches, we're still going strong now. I think everything you've said in this article rings true. I've found that honesty is a huge part of our relationship and has been since the beginning. Do I always want to tell my husband everything? But I've found that being honest with him makes things so much easier to work through.

Communication is a big one for me however I feel in my relationship "mutual respect" for one another is number one. I've been married for 5 years and my husband and I have always agreed to respect one another. It has taught us to communicate effectively, listen without interruption and respect each other's opinions or different point of views without blowing up.

I find it nice when a person takes time out of their busy schedule to spend time with me. I am a bit anti social but when someone makes an effort to spend time with me, it really makes me feel special. I try to make an effort to spend time with others as well because it's very easy for me to be a loner.

I find all of the things you have mentioned to be extremely important, and every one of them necessary to the success of a relationship. I would like to add that honesty is one thing that can make or break a relationship. If one person is continually being dishonest. the other begins to lose trust, when that happens, unless BOTH people work towards rebuilding that trust and being completely honest, the relationship can fall apart.

Originally Posted by katina

After reading this article, I can really understand why some relationships don't work out. It is hard work or at the very least something that you have to purposely work to sustain. I think you have to start with a basic attraction (physical, emotional, etc) to be willing to do all these things for your significant other.

I totally agree. Successful relationship takes very hard work from both partners. Sometimes one partner may put in more work into the relationship than the other partner and this can cause a rift between them. A relationship needs two persons to work equally hard at getting it to be successful but alas each partner may have different needs and this is where the need for communication is important.

True Love by putting 100 percent of my heart and soul into every note, every session and every song.

Respect your partner and yourself, communication and touch... are the most important i guess!! --Carmen Wright

Money is a huge component in a healthy relationship. As a premarital counselor, I think it's crucial that couples figure this out before they get move towards matrimony because it can monumentally affect the success of the relationship. The beliefs about what kind of debt to go into, if any, should be agreed upon before a commitment is made. Great article!

I totally agree on the touch part of the article as well as the other points. My boyfriend and I are really good when it come to that component. We hold hands while we are driving in the car, when we eat out, watch tv as much as we possibly can. We have only been together for 2 years, but that is an important thing for me and he understands that.

I love this article for the simple fact that everything that is said is absoultly true. Quality time is very important in any relationship. I know when my fiance worked in rigs he was only homefor 4 days out of the entire month. When he was home we spent those days beign with each other because that was the only time we had to ourselves. It also ties in with the communication and listening. We talked on the phone every night and without that we would probably be on our seperate paths by now. I love that you included touch in this article. Touch is a huge thing with being with someone, even holding hands can be a big boost.

This was a very accurate article! It is really important to implement these different things in your relationships and marriages. Unfortunately, alot of people don't realize how important these different elements are until you actually choose to spend the rest of your life with that individual. I have been married for a year and have been through many storms that I wouldn't have even imagined facing. It is very hard to transition from not having to consider anyone else's feelings to considering your spouse's feelings in everything that you do and say. I had to learn that the hard way!

Nice to see a good written article like this! I'm in a complicated relationship and I'm trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong because so far I'm not happy at all with what I have but I'll try more . Learning the hard way it's easy to say but so hard to do... I mean feelings should be more important than anything so I still think love should conquer all... Am I the only optimistic here?