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Love Advice Forum Thread: I broke up with my boyfriend, so why am i upset?

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    I broke up with my boyfriend, so why am i upset?

    I broke up with my boyfriend two days ago.

    We were together for almost 11 months. Im 26 he is 32.

    He took my virginity. He wasn't physically abusive but maybe a little verbally abusive at times.

    He has told me once that he didn't think too highly of me when i told him of my dream to be in law enforcement.

    He said i didn't prove to him that i had what it takes to me a police officer.

    I went to the hospital a few months ago and because he thought he would get yelled at by my or his parents instead of taking me to the closest hospital he took me to one downtown about 25 mins away because he thought i would just "get over it" He was more worried about himself than my health.

    This last time he accused me of "trapping" him, saying i want to have his baby on purpose.

    He got suspicious when i a went to planned parenthood and got birth control pills without him.

    I asked him if i was trying to trap u why would i get on birth control and he says i don't know mabe u got them and didn't take them.

    I asked him why he thought that he had no answer for me.

    I was hurt, and pissed off. but i still continued to be with him. But i no longer trusted him if he didnt' trust me.

    So after all of that and days went by without him talking to me or picking up his phone. I finally called him, he picked up and i called it quits. But why am i the one upset? I dont' get it

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    You're upset because you're love for him is real. And I think that's normal feeling, after a break up no matter who initiated or whatever the reason was, if you were truly in love with that person you will be hurt for sure. I'm just hoping that you won't ever get back together with this guy he sounds like an @$$**** to me. Move on and get your life back, I'm sure you will find someone better sooner or later.

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    You seem to have given him what’s important for you, your virginity, your love and your trust. It’s upsetting to finally let go of the one you’ve given you’re all and somehow it didn’t work out with him. But fret not. You know he’s not worthy of you because he didn’t think highly of you. Someone would surely come along who would support your aspirations, that would be proud to start a family with you and who would care for you unlike this guy. You’re still whole. Somehow, it’s his presence that makes you feel incomplete because you’re being mistrusted and look down at.

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    It's perfectly alright for you to feel that way, my dear. You've given him everything and yet he didn't value what you've given to him. I think you have made the right decision in breaking up with him since he is such an idiot and insensitive man. You should not be tolerating him and sacrificing your own happiness so go girl! Have a life and be happy!

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    Well reading your side of what the relationship was like, I'd say you made the right decision to break things off because he sounds like a real jerk who only cared about himself.

    But you were with him for almost a year, and you really loved him, so of course there is going to be an empty void in your life. But please don't second guess your decision too much, because you are better off without someone like this is your life. Don't let any second thoughts of thinking he'll change bring you back to him, because you deserve someone who meets you in the middle and wants to make you feel good about yourself.

    Just try to keep yourself busy, and eventually those feelings will lessen and you won't feel so bad anymore.

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    You have the right to be upset because you did love him and you still feel that you might have patched things up given you didn't call it quits. It even becomes harder now that he was your first time.

    But I think you did the right decision. People who are more concerned about their appearance or how other people see them compared to emergencies are not worth the companionship. They are better off alone unless they change and learn to care for their partners.

    Distract yourself for now and let time do the healing of wounds. If you seriously want to go to law enforcement, I suggest you to do it now. It's a good distraction and a means to prove your ex wrong about him underestimating you. Good luck.

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    He was the first man to have an intimate relationship with, so you are attached to him emotionally. For a relationship to work, one invests a lot of time and patience with the hope that it will last for ever, but when things don't work out, you feel disappointed and hurt. You blame yourself even when you know that he was the one who messed up because you still wants it to work.

    I think its a good think that you realized that he doesn't care about your welfare the day you got sick. This way you are able to put some things in to light and start healing.Its normal to feel this way because emotionally you are still hurting. The good thing is that time heal all broken hurt and soon you will find yourself smiling and loving again.

    You deserve someone who truly appreciates you.

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    I think you're upset because your relationship did not end in good terms. I don't know but sounds like he is not entirely true to you based on what you have said in your post. Don't worry about too much though. and yes, you deserve someone way better than that.

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    You definitely made the right decision. It's okay to feel that way, and that's just because you did love him and were in a relationship for almost a year. But, you are so much better off without him. No one should treat you like that, especially your boyfriend. I'm glad that you had the courage to break it off with him and not wait for him to hurt you even more.

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    Obviously, you really love him that is why you are upset. But while I am trying to visualize your relationship with him, I don't think that it is advisable to get him back. It is time for you to move forward. And with the help of your family, your friends, your peers, I know you will be able to cope up and move on.

    It will take time. But I am sure, if you are really willing and eager to move forward, you can do it. Believe in yourself. Smile.

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