Just needed a bit of advice basically my fiance of just over a year has started talking to his ex again and i just wanted to know if im being just insecure and paranoid or i actually have something to be worried about?.
To be honest i am very much a worrier and i am insecure due to past relationships and being cheated on so it could just be me.
So to cut a long story short my partner was with his ex for 6 months before me, was not the best relationship she had major food issues and so does my partner they are very a like in alot of ways and due to being to much a like she broke up with him, but then i think after she wanted to get back with him but he didnt want to well thats as far as i know then 6 months later he met me for the first year of our relationship they didnt speak or anything she hated him and he didnt like her, he see's her regular because they go to the same place for swimming and gym so they see each other every morning but never spoke untill 2 months ago, when my partner was very ill and she sent him a message on facebook asking how he was , and since then they have been talking more at the gym, while waiting for swimming and they sometimes message on facebook, she currently has a boyfriend.
The only reason im really worried is because he says things like she seems more relaxed on her food issues and seems different in general which was the main problem to why they didnt work, and also we have had a few issues in our relationship for the last two months due to my insecurities and it got so bad that a few weeks ago he said if i didnt sort them he couldnt be with me because he wants a secure relationship with me so since then i have been getting help and trying to fix things between us things are getting better slowly but it will take time as he is still very angry about the situation so thats probably why im more worried cause things have not been good between us and he might be more tempted by her.
Its hard because i cant talk to him about it cause thats part of the problem i had before being insecure so thats why im asking for advice am i just being silly or should i be worried?? i did say to him a few months back that if they did start meeting up for social stuff that would make me very uncomfortable as i dont meet up with my ex due to respect for him and i know it would make him uncomfortable, he does tell me if she messages except the last time when he wished her a good holiday as she was off to egypt.
any help would be appriciated.