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    How Much Time is Too Much Spent Together When Dating?

    I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Couples start dating and often spend a lot of time together early on. Of course there are exceptions, depending on individual circumstances. I wonder if spending too much time together early on is a good thing or if the time should be more spaced out. Would it make a difference in how the relationship evolves?

    I'm not exactly dating right now, but am interested in someone. I've thought about how much time with them would be right for me. I would be happy with twice a month to start with. That probably sounds a bit crazy for some people. But, is it possible that too much time early on might be a negative?

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    Do you mean two dates a month to start? I could see that amount increasing quickly if it turns out you both like each other a lot. This is one of those situations where you have to sort of feel your way along (no bad jokes intended).

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    Loving or liking someone is an even t of nature and how much time one spends with the other depends on how strong the feelings are. There are many factors to consider or that can contribute to how much time partners can spend together and its different for every couple. When they fall in love completely, they want to be together all the time and the slightest time apart feels like eternity. Like you were told, you may find two times a month undo able and all you want is to spend time with her.

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    Things of the heart cannot be dictated by terms set in stone. Some people are happy even if they see each other just a couple of hours a months. Some can't live if they can't see each other for more than two hours. Just ride with the wind and watch out for the waves.

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    I think that is something that can never be pre-defined or planned. This will depend on how you really like each other. If you are happy being together, hanging out or just doing anything, then longer hours or at at least 3 times a week will do. But as I have said, it all depends on both of you.

    Sometimes it is better not to plan those kind of things and just go with the flow.

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    Thank you all for your responses.

    I can understand the idea of not planning things out in the early dating period. But, sometimes thinking ahead 'might' be of benefit. There are relationships that go sour because a couple gets involved deeply too soon. Normally they haven't really gottten to know each other before the emotions take over. Once the emotions take over, it's hard to go back.

    It just seems to me that a slower pace would allow a relationship to evolve on both a logical and an emotional level. For example, often a couple gets so emotionally involved that they don't discuss important issues such as beliefs, if they want children, where they would live, etc. Once these issues come out later down the line, problems can arise. But, by then the emotions are deeply involved as well. Some couples might realize at this point that they really don't know each other.

    It really comes down to individual choice, but I see the benefits of a slower pace.

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    I definitely think that setting a limit on how often you see someone you are dating is good if you are really busy and have other responsibilities in your life. It also gives you time to really get to know the person rather just getting infatuated and thinking that you're in love.

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    Well some couples spend every second that they have together no matter when and where. I mean once you start likeing each other you will spend more time together every chance you get. You will end up being more and more involved to where you might end up talking about moving in together and all of that good stuff. When I ended up with my husband we spent all the time together and there were times when he was upset cause we could not spend certain days together, but I knew he really liked me and wanted to be with me. Just you know hang out and make sure that you at least have some space sometimes, but that is about it really. Hope you have fun and maybe y'all end up together for a long time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katlyn View Post
    I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Couples start dating and often spend a lot of time together early on. Of course there are exceptions, depending on individual circumstances. I wonder if spending too much time together early on is a good thing or if the time should be more spaced out. Would it make a difference in how the relationship evolves?

    I'm not exactly dating right now, but am interested in someone. I've thought about how much time with them would be right for me. I would be happy with twice a month to start with. That probably sounds a bit crazy for some people. But, is it possible that too much time early on might be a negative?
    I like to limit time with men that I date because I want to experience them on their best behavior. I also know that it's important for them to experience ME on my best behavior as well.

    That being said...I think it is important to flow with whatever happens most naturally. When you enter into a potential significant other relationship you consider your brain and your heart. Your mind might say one thing and your heart could tell you something different. I say...go with your heart...so you can experience happiness.

    Another thing to consider...

    If you connect with someone who is clingy and insecure without you...you might want to draw a line...so you won't feel obligated to spend too much time with him/her. Do what you feel is best for YOU...always.
    Thank you for showing me, each and every day, how deeply loved I am.

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