I'm just curious I'm gonna have sex soon for the first Time and I want too last longer any tips on what I can do?like after ejaculating or whatever can't I keep going to pleasure the girl?please serious answers
Some men can't keep going once they ejaculate, however I am blessed with a man who can To answer your question, to prolong sex you have to pace yourself. Your probably saying, how can I do that. Well its simple. Don't be a jack hammer and go at it as hard and fast as you can. You need to take your time. If she wants it fast, thats fine, but when you feel you are about to climax, stop, or slow down. Foreplay for the girl is the best way to keep your session lasting longer. What I mean is, have sex and take breaks by pulling out and kissing her body, or fingering her. The short break will help you sow down. If anything else, think about something OTHER than what your doing. Think about baseball or fat old naked men haha, that will keep you from ejaculating quickly.
Most guys don't last very long the first time they have sex, its really only something you can learn later in life. But I have a couple of suggestions to help compensate for that.
My first suggestion is to pleasure the girl with hands and mouth prior to actual intercourse. Focus on her before focusing on you. If you do that then it won't matter how long you last once the actually act starts, because the girl will have already enjoyed the experience.
My second suggestion depends on your age and body. Some men can get hard again after an initial ejactulation. If you are one of these men, then perhaps you can ejactulate prior to intercourse (you can even have your partner help you with this). Then continue pleasuring each other until you become hard again. It takes longer to ejactulate a second time so you will have more time to pleasure your partner and enjoy the sexual experience if you do this.
Just take your time and enjoy every bit of the moment.
Honestly? We women are not after length or length of time hahaha! We prefer romance to sex; which means make that first time memorable, not with speed or depth or whatever. Think of the aftermath of sex .. whispers and sweet little things bring out the best feelings in us...
First of all, I hope you are practicing safe sex - contrary to urban myths, girls can get pregnant on their first time, and boys can make them pregnant on their first time.
Secondly, the condom is your friend - as a bloke, it does reduce some of the sensitivity which can help make you last longer in the first place. More experienced lovers often go for the ultra thin condoms, but as a new starter I'd suggest you go for a standard one, or even a textured one (the texture helps your partner, not you) as these tend to be thicker, too. This also has the added benefit of being less likely to split, and easier to put on without tearing in the first case.
As to continuing after orgasm, good luck with that - I can only speak from my personal experience, but after orgasm, you generally don't have the urge to keep going forever, if only because sensitivity often heightens for you to unbearable levels! But remember that your love-rod isn't the only part of your body with which you can give pleasure.
Two other facts that first timers often don't know - don't expect to give your partner an orgasm on your first outing through penetration alone. It very often doesn't happen, but no-one ever admits to that. Secondly, giving your partner an orgasm before penetration can often make it easier for them to orgasm again during sex. And win you big kudos for being a generous lover.
Hope it goes well.
If it is your first time I don't believe nothing will slow you down with the excitement and sexual tension. But don't worry if you are worried about the girls enjoyment because there is an easy fix for that. Four-play and oral! Just take care of her before you get started. As long as she has been ummm....pleasured then she won't care if your a little fast on the draw. Besides there is always seconds!
The best advice anyone could give: Foreplay. Try to involve all senses into the experience. Touch, and stroke different parts of her body gently. Use food like strawberries to entice her taste buds.tell her what you are going to do, or how much she turns you on. Dim the lights, and burns either Incense or candles. It's not prematch preparation, it's really another element in sexual relations.
I have some tips here that might help you:
1. Ejaculate hours before you have sex.
2. Not all girls take too much pleasure during the actual sex.
3. Girls love foreplay.
4. Play with their body more.
5. Don't be eager to penetrate the girl.
6. Turn her on.
7. Take everything slowly.
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