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    my wifes secret photos

    About 7 months ago my wife stumbled on some fairly racy old photos on my computer that were taken between an ex girlfriend and myself. The photos were 5 years old and thought to have been deleted years ago but were somehow stored in a file I was unaware of. After a month or so pleading my case that I was not cheating and that they were something between us 5 years ago she eventually accepted what I was telling her. I was not cheating nor would I ever. For the following 6 months I have noticed that she's been going through my things as if she expects to find something. I've shrugged it off because there simply is nothing to find. A few days ago I was going through a drawing looking for some paperwork and found a small folded up piece of paper with a web address and user name on it. I looked it up to see what it was and found pictures of my wife being posted to various sex groups. I don't know how to deal with this or what to think. She has displayed what seems to me an extreme desire for sex and she also has personal image problems and continuously feels that I don't find her sexy even though I do and tell her often. Is she simply looking for strangers to tell her this so she feels better about herself or should I be worried about something more? I didn't bring it up to her because there is part of me that wants to see where it goes and to see if she's planning on cheating. I really don't know what to do....

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    If the information that allowed you to get through to this website was in a drawer where all sorts of stuff is stored, I'd guess that she wanted you to find it. It's a retaliation for what she thinks of as your cheating. She wants you to feel as insecure as she does - I don't think she's planning on cheating at all. You need to tell her you've seen the pictures, and tell her how good she looks. That should take the wind out of her sails. If it doesn't, use the opportunity to talk things through. This situation needs to be resolved, so you can get on with your lives.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sandra Piddock View Post
    If the information that allowed you to get through to this website was in a drawer where all sorts of stuff is stored, I'd guess that she wanted you to find it. It's a retaliation for what she thinks of as your cheating. She wants you to feel as insecure as she does - I don't think she's planning on cheating at all. You need to tell her you've seen the pictures, and tell her how good she looks. That should take the wind out of her sails. If it doesn't, use the opportunity to talk things through. This situation needs to be resolved, so you can get on with your lives.
    I'm not sure but I don't think most girls would share their pictures with the world just on retaliation. Is there any way to find out when these pictures were posted? If you can find out the dates and whether they were before or after your pictures, that would tell us a lot

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    They were posted and taken one week ago. it's a new user name she's going by on the website she's posting on. And as far as the drawer goes that I found the paper in, it's not a drawer that I normally go in. It's a junk drawer filled with old bills and papers.
    Last edited by chitown74; 10-01-2012 at 07:00 PM.

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    My first thought was she wanted you to find this piece of paper, I think she planted it there. Seems pretty strange she would put in there with important paperwork. You need to communicate with each other and put everything out in the open. I'm the type of person who hates knowing something secret about my partner, I would tell her.

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    thats not fear

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    Why not take all the guesswork and scheming out of it and talk about it openly together? The bottom line is you have to be honest with each other and neither of you should have anything to hide.

    Besides, her taking photos of herself and sharing them sounds like fun that you may want to join in with!

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    The thing is she gave me over a month of hell about the photos she found of me and my ex. She told me how disgusted she was and she didn't know how any one could do something like that. She comes off as like someone who would NEVER do anything like that and now I find this. I haven't talked with her about it yet because I've been waiting to see if it goes any further. That's probably the wrong thing for me to do but I'm working on a strategy on how to bring it up. She been acting strange for the past few days and if I ask her what's wrong I get "nothing". I'm not sure if she's feeling guilty knowing what she did or if there is some other major problem she's not telling me. I guess I'll find out soon.

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    Turns out my wife has had a secret email account as well that I've found. She's been emailing a man sexually explicit emails for a month. I've confronted her about it and she swears nothing happened other than the email. She said she was doing it for attention. I'm not sure if I buy that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chitown74 View Post
    Turns out my wife has had a secret email account as well that I've found. She's been emailing a man sexually explicit emails for a month. I've confronted her about it and she swears nothing happened other than the email. She said she was doing it for attention. I'm not sure if I buy that.
    Hold on.
    This doesn't make sense to me.
    This all started because she found something intimate that you and an ex of 5 years shared, that you believed didn't exist anymore, and this is her response ?
    I'm sure it's the case for a lot more men that just me, but if I discovered that my girlfriend had been sending explicit emails and sharing sexual images of her body with other men it wouldn't be just excused with a simple "It was for the attention"
    What you and your ex shared was in the past, and while I understand the anonymity of the internet, she is doing this while in a marriage and in my books that's plain unfaithful.

    I'm not saying that she's physically cheating and you should end it, god no.
    But I think you should definitely talk to her and make sure she understands how this is actually making you feel..

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