Advice on BBW sex and how to become a premature ejaculator.

Discussion in 'Sex Advice' started by AusGuy, Apr 7, 2014.

  1. AusGuy

    AusGuy New Member

    I have been dating a wonderful woman for nearly 4 years and we both know once we sort out our families and other commitments, like work, we will get married, move in together, start a family etc. That’s not the issue; I’m just letting you know we are dedicated to each other.

    I have two problems, well not so much problems but worries. She is, to put it easily, a BBW. Heavy set; a big and rather busty sexy girl. I myself am of just over average build, a bit cuddly. We are both working towards losing weight.

    However our sex life generally involves me on top, thrusting into her until we are spent. We have tried with me on the bottom and her riding me but it just doesn’t work out as I can never get into a position for penetration. Doggy is ok but tiring for both of us as I slip out constantly. I have had some success with side entry, but again while pleasurable it is difficult to pull off for longer than a quarter hour.

    At current our love making consist of extended foreplay where, with toys and vibrators, I get her off multiple times then once she is spent (and not too sore) I try to take my pleasure.

    This brings me to my next difficulty. I take forever to cum. I’ve had multiple partners before meeting my love but I still take ages to get off from penetrative sex. It’s just delayed and without forcing, by imagining or stimulating myself to cum, I don’t. We use condoms.

    When I masturbate I can make myself cum pretty reasonably, but when I have actual sex unless I’m really turned on or forced by my partner to cum, I just cannot. I’m hard as anything and can keep going until I literally wear myself out which can be an hour maybe more. It’s painful for my current partner and quite embarrassing for me.

    Other partners I have had in the past were fine with it as I was a walking hard on for them to use as much as the liked but now… I need help.

    Doctors say lose weight and stop stressing. It not like I’m impotent I’m the opposite so any drugs don’t really do anything but keep me harder. I want some advice please. On positions we can try and on how I can turn myself into a premature ejaculator. Maybe there is a drug out on the market. I have no idea what to do.

    Thank you,

    AusGuy
     
  2. LoveAdmin

    LoveAdmin Administrator Staff Member

    How long are we talking about?
     
  3. AusGuy

    AusGuy New Member

    Reply to LoveAdmin

    As in how long I can keep going?

    Active intercourse I've kept up for well over an hour in multiple positions etc. that is until I physically tire.

    Usually without reaching my orgasm an average sex session (foreplay, breaks, etc.) leaves my current partner too sore after two and a half hours to continue.

    That said I have in the past continued for four to six hours (foreplay, breaks, etc.) with other partners before becoming too chaffed or sore myself, and not reaching orgasm.

    When I masturbate I can generally cum quickly or draw it out overnight and I can make myself reach orgasm between five and seven times (three with ejaculate).

    I do not know if it is the physical stimulation aspect. Sometimes I have no problem and can cum quickly via intercourse, other times I'm just walking wood.

    Thanks,

    AusGuy
     
  4. dianet

    dianet New Member

    i've seen mention of this before. stop masturbating for a while to build back the sensitivity. as u said during masturbation you can come as u please, this is because you're in control and can adjust the grip and speed as u see fit and a vagina just isnt as versatile and knowledgeable as the hand
     
  5. AusGuy

    AusGuy New Member

    Reply to dianet

    The holding off masturbating I have tried on several occasions. From a week to three months. No wet dreams, no... you get the idea.

    While I was more horny going into the sex. I still had the same issue (on some occasions as this issue does not occur with every sexual encounter).

    Later, I'm embarrassed to say, when I reflected upon the sex earlier and masturbated I came reasonably soon and in a large quantity.
     
  6. rebmaj

    rebmaj New Member

    If this is a lady you intend to stay with, has she considered using a different form of contraception so that you do not require condoms?
    Aside from that, when you're done giving her foreplay what is the standpoint on your own??

    Lastly have you tried having your partner go on top with pillows under your bum?
    I'm a larger lady maybe not the normal sexual description of BBW (Uk 22) and going on top is much easier when my partner is elevated on something so he can wedge between my thighs better =P
     

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