Can’t orgasm without porn

Discussion in 'Sex Advice' started by CamiD, Dec 28, 2017.

  1. CamiD

    CamiD New Member

    About 8 months ago, I discovered my husband watches quite a bit of porn and visits live webcam sites after I go to bed. At the time, it was devestating to me. He and a counselor friend have since enlightened me that he needs this stimulative release and that it is completely normal and all men do it- it has nothing to do with me. I have accepted this- or tried to- but I can’t seem to move on from it. I began to obsessively frequent these sites myself to see what he was watching..... and then i started to get oddly turned on by the prospect of him masturbating to these girls who I find so much more attractive then myself. I watch it... thinking of it only through his eyes and orgasming myself thinking he orgasming. It hurts like a mofo afterwards..... but at the time it really turns me on. I started to imagine him having sex with random women particularly his coworker who I know he finds attractive and forcing me to watch. It makes me crazy and is all I can think about. I have recently stopped watching the porn by myself....but now whenever we have sex, I can’t orgasm unless we are watching porn together and he is focusing on the porn or if I am imagining I’m someone else (particularly his coworker is the girl(s) we are watching). I realize this is my problem... not my husbands. I just was wondering if anyone had any advice for me on how I can find my self confidence once again enjoy a normal sex with my husband?
     

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