Hi! I am in a new relationship since a few months ago. The way we started was very weird: we just met by chance and felt a connection and then started skyping for a several weeks, as she lives in the US and I live in Germany. She visited me for a few weeks and we got together. However this was long distance and very stressful, while I was very busy at work. We met in the meantime again for several weeks and soon I will move to the US for my job. The problem is, that I am now wondering if we are a good match, as the two of us are very different. On the one hand, I feel that we would need more in common, while on the other hand people also talk about "completing" each other... To keep it brief here is a short list, however the order is rather random and some points may be exagerating. culture: German - US believe: (close to) atheist - (very?) religious background: middle class - (rather?) rich work: academic career/busy - no fixed job/plenty of time political view: left liberal - (right?) conservative politics/news: interested - not interested partnership: stay individual - grow one relationships: friends - family "admiration need": others - partner decisions: rational (overthinking?) - intuitive (naive?) temper: rather cold - warm/loving adjustment: pessimist - optimist sex drive: low - high discipline: high -low We both don't have a lot of experience in relationships, although we are already in the beginnings of our 30s. (I just had two really short ones (<1y) and a lot of frustrating dating, she had two longer ones that however ended ugly for her.) In her opinion, one can work through all problems if just willing to put in enough effort. But I don't think that is true for everything. I think some things/behaviors are fixed or cannot be changed as much as necessary. The hardest part I think is the need for attention and appreciation. I feel that even if I try, I can never give her that loving environment which she is used to from her family, and in turn I do not fully appreciate all the loving things she does. On the contrary I draw strength from admiration of co-workers or discussions with friends about topics that she is not interested in - which makes she feel disregarded or she becomes jealous. It is like we both can give the other something that the other doesn't appreciate, while we need something else that we seek from others. I may be overanalyzing it, and I am doubtful in general, but I am really worried that this is not going to work. Many thanks for any advise!