Please, I need help. Long story short: He (26) and me (29) have been together for three monthes. It was intense. We were seeing each other every day, sleeping over almost every night. Little by little he found out that I was slut. More and more I realized that he is right. Now he is a complete mess and I am asking for advise, how to help him out of this. this is about him. How to make him feel better! Not about how to safe the relationship. I am in love with this wonderfull person like I have never been before. This is the first time I am going: "This is it! This is real!" But I am making one seriuos mistake after another... We fell in love and only after some time found out how different we were in the past. Now my, before otherwise happy, boyfriend is in a realy bad state: Can't sleep or has horrible dreams about my sexual past, he is questioning weither he is attractive or good in bed, weither he can trust me at all... Can't concentrate.. Can't work. His family is just as worried. My past: I had many partners and was sexually active and have had a three some, sex with another women, anal sex. Like Grisham wrote: if you cross a line enough times, it disappears forever. The thing is, sex and my body where nothing valuable to me. You may say I was a slut. It doesn't matter. I am deeply ashamed. But that is not important right now. He is going to pieces. Comparing himself to 9 other men. Having complexes he never had before. There was one situation that initially started the complex, when I was not as wet as I thought, I should be regarding how attractive he is and how deeply in love I am. I thought, he would notice and didn't want him to feel insecure. But I acted like a complete idiot. He is long and it was painfull for me. Well, sometimes you just need a little more time and you can fit a longer penis, right. So I tried to explain. But what he heard was just: You are not as sexually attractive as my partners in the past. You are the problem. You are not good enough. I have always had difficulties reaching orgasm. I told him so in the beginning. But he feels that he is not a good enough lover. I told him that I like how he is treating me. I love his body. But no matter what: He can't believe it. Because it sounds to him, as though every compliment is worthless. When I say: You smell good. I love your hair. ... He thinks: She told this six oder five guys before. How can I be unique? He suggested, I should tell him when he is unique to me. And was affraid that there just is nothing unique. But facing the way he processes everything I say i just don't know how. Everything I say seems to make it worse. I am sseking advice. Especially from men whom had simular feelings or experiences. I do not want hear anything about him overreacting. He has his values. He did choose a path in a young age, because he was convinced of it. He has only slept with his first girlfriend. I can't give him this exclusiveness. I can't change my past. How did you feel? What did you wish your partner to say? Or do? Do you have any ideas how to cope with this? We are spending time. Trying to have sex. Sometimes he can just be in the moment and forget. But then he remebers, his fantasy running amok... so far anything I told him about my past was much worse that his worst case scenario. Thanks!