I Never Watch Porn When in a Relationship?

Discussion in 'Sex Advice' started by Unregistered, Oct 15, 2011.

  1. Unregistered

    Unregistered Guest

    When I am in a relationship with a girl,I never have the desire to watch porn,I feel I have a girl and there is no reason for it.But when I am single,I will watch porn time to time.I am not one of those guys who spends so much time on porn.

    I hear from girls that their boyfriends will masturbate and watch porn,and I feel so different.When I am with a girl,I am with a girl! You know what I am saying,why watch porn??!!

    Guess I am in the minority though.Guys and girls,do you or your boyfriends/husbands watch porn often or are you/they more like me?
     
  2. Eiza

    Eiza New Member

    My hubby definitely has a stash. Although the poor deluded soul thinks that i don't know about it. I think it's great that you don't watch porn when you're in a relationship, but it honestly doesn't bother me either way. I've never been with a man for whom porn was an obsession.
     
  3. phoenyxstarr

    phoenyxstarr New Member

    My husband watches porn on a regular basis... But with him being a truck driver, he's away from home more often than not & I'd rather he watch porn & masturbate to it than pick up some truck stop hooker. Plus the majority of the porn he watches, I made for him so its more like he's home in his mind anyway. LOL

    When he's home, he'll occasionally watch porn. But its not overwhelming... Sometimes we even watch it together but I'm not really that big on porn, with him or not.
     
  4. vapour

    vapour New Member

    There's an assumption, especially among women, that if a guy in a relationship looks at porn (or even masturbates at all!) there must be something 'wrong' with the relationship, or with the sex in the relationship. But that's not necessarily the case. Even in the most sexually active relationship, a guy is likely to be thinking about sex far more often than he is actually having sex, so porn fills in the gaps, so to speak! From what I can gather, men are also more 'visual' than women, so for us fantasising about sex is far more likely to lead to the urge to look at sexual images. I don't see that as anything to be ashamed of or discouraged, regardless of whether we're in or out of a relationship - that's just the way we're wired. Do we disapprove of married women still liking the 'hit' of watching romantic films?
     
  5. thelovetitan

    thelovetitan New Member

    http://love-advice-forum.com/images/smilies/smile.png I think porn can be watched and used with a partner to stimulate a relationship. It can also be used for fun or foreplay. Once it becomes an obsession then it should be curbed. Most of the time i think it maybe better to do without it to just be creative. Although porn can be used to get ideas for when your with your partner or someone your in a relationship with.
     
  6. thelovetitan

    thelovetitan New Member

    I think porn can be watched and used with a partner to stimulate a relationship. It can also be used for fun or foreplay. Once it becomes an obsession then it should be curbed. Most of the time i think it maybe better to do without it to just be creative. Although porn can be used to get ideas for when your with your partner or someone your in a relationship with. :D
     
  7. PandoraJ

    PandoraJ New Member

    Watching porn to me is distrubing. However, if the person is alone and is not willing to go to the local bar and pick up something easy. Then yes, watch porn to releave yourself. However, in a relationship, leave the porn out.
    I had a boyfriend one time that watched porn. It made me sick to my tummy to even think he watched porn. To me, he was more interested in the fake stuff and didn't care if he had the real stuff. Needless to say, the relationship went sour in a hurry. The poor guy is now picking up the easy stuff at the local bars...lol!
     
  8. Player One

    Player One New Member

    I think you're just respecting your girlfriend. We all have our own opinions and ways with our relationships. Don't worry about it. If others watch porn while having a gf, don't worry about it. lol.
     
  9. bross

    bross New Member

    Every relationship is different. For some it stimulates them to watch it together. I love to watch porn with my boyfriend. It puts us in an awesome and playful mood after.
     
  10. Lucky120

    Lucky120 New Member

    I do not see an issue with it at all really. When married couples watch together if they want to spice up their sex life. I mean with us women some of us pleasure ourselves, but we get mad at our husbands for it. I mean my hubby will ask me to watch something especially if he is in the mood haha. I am a little different if I'm in the mood I let him know. Well if that is something you do not do then that is great. Some women do not like it, so that is good for you if you have someone and you do not glance at it that is great. I wish the best of luck to you and everyone else that has their standards and follow through.
     
  11. criticalthinking

    criticalthinking New Member

    Well, I know a bunch of women who love porn, so they like to watch it with their boyfriends, and in two cases, husbands. I also know girls who hate it and are outraged by their significant other if they watch it. But there are women who want to watch porn just as much as guys. :)
     
  12. wneely

    wneely New Member

    I'd be one of those women. I tend to watch more porn when I'm in a relationship than I do when I'm single. Usually it's with my partner, but if I find myself alone and missing my sweetie I'll indulge.

    I see nothing wrong with it as long as porn doesn't take over the relationship. :)
     
  13. criticalthinking

    criticalthinking New Member

    True! I never see what the hang up is for most situations. I do understand for some of my friends, because their boyfriends start expecting them to do ridiculous things because they saw it in a porno, and that's certainly obnoxious. I also have a friend who gets angry about it, but partially because her boyfriend keeps infecting her computer with viruses because of porn. ;)
     
  14. wneely

    wneely New Member

    Infecting my computer would definitely put a kink in my mood, but not enough to turn off the porn. That's what free streaming sites and Linux are for. ;)
     
  15. spacut

    spacut New Member

    if both people are ok with porn or there is an agreement that they will only watch porn together, then there's no problem. however, if either party takes serious issue with it, it can cause some serious porblems. i know from personal experience. i was traumatized with it as a young child. the first year or so i tried really hard to not let my hubby watching porn bother me but then one night and snapped and he didn't know why, coz i had never told him. when i told him, he was pissed at me because he would have been ok if i had just told him. he tells me he still misses it sometimes but its ok, he understands.
     
  16. sherrybelle

    sherrybelle New Member

    I would say that watching porn is a personal choice. I do, however, know people that are so addicted that it's a problem like any addiction. It's great that you're willing to respect the woman in your life by staying away from it when you're in a relationship. It says that you're in control of it all.
     
  17. babycakess

    babycakess New Member

    I see absolutely no problems with watching porn when in a relationship. My husband and I have a very active and healthy sex life and we both enjoy to watch porn individually and together. Granted, he watched it considerably more than I do alone. I take no offense to him watching it and never have. Now, I had an ex that would watch porn all the time and we did not have a very active and healthy sex life and that was a problem. As long as I am the number one sexual priority (and porn is not) I am totally fine with it.
     
  18. babycakess

    babycakess New Member

    LOL, the viruses were the only part that bothered me with porn ;)

    And my husband and I have a very amusing approach to watching porn together. There are a few things I absolutely hate (spitting on it during a BJ and facials are my biggest dislikes), but we can always find things to laugh at - stupid haircuts, the music, bad storyline, etc. Its definitely a lot of fun and not all business for us ;)
     
  19. wneely

    wneely New Member

    We do that too. LOL Sometimes the best thing about porn is the MST3K factor.

    We also have a few things we differ on in the turn on department, so we watch those separately and watch anything we'll both enjoy together.
     
  20. clauemi

    clauemi New Member

    I don't care if my partner watches some every now and then, girls do same exact thing. It's kind of sexy and hey you might learn something new you can try lol.
     

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