Hey guys, So this time I'll be on the other side of the forum! I'm normally quite comfortable with decisions I make with regard to relationships, but this time I'm sorta stumped. There's a young lady I work with, been working alongside her closely for about 6 months now. There's always been a bit of a flirtation going on in the workplace, as will generally always occur when you have a group of people in their late 20s - early 30s working together in an informal setting, and it never went beyond that. When I first started, she seemed interested but I was in a relationship so it didn't go any further. I've since split up with my partner, and she's recently stopped seeing a guy she was dating. She's very flirtatious. I'm very direct; whilst just discussing dates I asked her out, she laughingly accepted but passed it off as a joke-y sort of offer. I'm cool with that, to each their own and if she doesn't want to do so I can take a hint. However she continues to be very flirtatious, and in our conversations she often makes this big deal that i'm about 6 years younger than her, which, to me, doesn't matter in the slightest, and I've told her as much. I've dated a woman 12 years older than me in the past, it was great. Particularly as I know she's often chatting to another coworker quite a lot aswell, and hell, if she's more into him then power to em, the guy's also a mate, we've hung out a few times after work, he;s a good guy. This would usually not really even be a consideration for me. I have a strict don't-date-coworkers policy that I always adhere to and would've made this a lot simple. The problem is she's perfect. Literally perfect for me. We're into the same things, chat about endless shit for hours and hours when we hang out/message outside of work. (I've made it no secret in posts about my disdain for texting and messaging as a whole with regard to the love and dating side of life, but I've been enticed into it this time.) It's a situation I've only found myself in once in which I can't get her out of my head. I never keep my phone near my bed, yet this morning left out of bed and almost jumped onto it to check my messages. It's really pissing me off. Cutting her out of my life isn't an option. Asking her out was sidestepped. I don't really know what to do. If I were giving advice I'd usually recommend one of those; stop speaking to her or directly ask her yes or no. I really like her, both as a friend and I find her very attractive. What do you guys think is the way forward? I can't tell what's going on in this situation, something I usually consider myself quite good at as I've dated a lot of people. But, as a friend recently remarked, mostly as a joke but still got me thinking; in dating those people the relationships have always failed, largely due to things I've done. I don't want to lose this girl as a mate, but being around her is doing me in. I appear to have written this as more of a rant than anything else, but any and all advice or comments are appreciated.