Is Getting Back Together After a Nasty Break Up and Moving Away Possible?

Discussion in 'Break Up Forum' started by FreeFromBurden666, Nov 9, 2017.

  1. FreeFromBurden666

    FreeFromBurden666 New Member

    Hey all! I was looking for advice on my current situation. My (ex)boyfriend and I have had a really messy break up and in the heat of an argument he told me to move back home with my family. And I did. Our breakup started three weeks ago with a break, but I didn't take it very well and had a nervous breakdown because of it and how cruelly he was treating me. I was originally supposed to move out of our apartment but ended up leaving town when we got into a huge explosive fight and said he didn't care if I left. But took it back when I told him I had the truck. The whole thing started because he was pulling away all summer because of his new job promotion, so I suspected he was betraying me behind my back because of the distance. Then I found he had and couldn't let it go and kept arguing about it. Then he started deleting texts from a new coworker of his, claiming it was nothing besides not wanting his phone to be cluttered. Then he said he'd stop talking to her, but hadn't. So I thought he was cheating, even though he kept assuring me he wasn't. He admitted he fucked up majorly by deleting their messages and other other fine tooth details of our relationship and he was sorry and he cried a few times, especially when I left. Through the end of it he was cold and kind of mean but yet seemed sorry about everything and he didn't want to do it. He said that my key and my dog would be there when I got back. He cried when he said it'd only be a temporary move. We got into a fight because I broke the no contact rule not even a day after I left but have been good about it since. But now I see that I can't see his friends on Facebook, he took the life event of our one year anniversary and hid his age on his Facebook but he hasn't unfriended me. Is he just being spiteful because of all of the fighting or is it over? Can we fix things even though I've moved? Is it possible to recover a relationship after a nervous breakdown?? Does he even miss me?? Help! Oh it's only been a few days since I left. We've only been broken up for a little under a week, excluding the break.
     
  2. Unnaturalthings

    Unnaturalthings Active Member

    Can you fix things? Well, that depends on what's broken. Breaks ups are always hard, and sometimes they feel downright impossible. The weeks after a big breakup are an emotional, sensitive time with a lot of adjustments to be made. It's easy to forget why things ended in the first place.

    Try to look at things objectively. You have stated that he was so cruel to you that it caused you to have a nervous breakdown. He was lying to you. He hid communication with another woman from you. He insists he wasn't cheating- which could be true- but then deletes their texts and talks to her behind your back.

    It doesn't sound like you were sharing a happy, healthy partnership with this guy. Are you sure you even want to try to make things work?
     

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