Miscellaneous sex Q's (swallowing; orgasm; vagina size)

Discussion in 'Sex Advice' started by ladyinquisitive, Sep 29, 2014.

  1. ladyinquisitive

    ladyinquisitive New Member

    I have a couple of questions so I appreciate responses to any of them.

    1) Sometimes when I swallow my boyfriend's semen after oral sex, I get a stomachache. Sometimes it just feels a little odd, hard to describe, but sometimes it feels almost like I could throw up. It's not because of the taste, that doesn't bother me so much, and it doesn't affect my stomach until a little later on. Has anyone else experienced this/know why this might be occurring?

    2) I have never been able to achieve orgasm either with a partner or by myself. I think know more or less what to do and what it's supposed to feel like, and my current boyfriend definitely makes me feel good enough for it to happen, but it just doesn't. Anyone know why this could be the case, or have specific suggestions on how to get to the orgasm? Sometimes it feels like I'm so close but also sometimes my body feels so sensitive that I almost can't handle it and have to stop (i.e. when he's fingering me/massaging my clitoris). I want to keep going to reach orgasm but yet it takes so much effort, I don't know what to do!
    *Note, I currently am taking antidepressants and have been for about 8-9 years. I know this can inhibit orgasm, but it's not like it can't still happen, right? I don't think I can stop the medication at this time.

    3) It's been a while since I had penal/vaginal intercourse, and I've only ever done it with one person (ex-boyfriend), but it was never particularly pleasurable for me (even though I wanted it to be). It actually was somewhat painful even after the first time. He could usually never even get two fingers in me without me having to make him stop, and the same goes for my current boyfriend. Additionally, I had a pap smear not too long ago and the speculum was very painful for me even though it apparently shouldn't be. The doctor said that everything looks fine, but I'm curious if maybe my vagina is just really narrow? What can I do to make sex hurt less?

    I know that's a lot of info and questions but I just wanted to put it all out there and see what kind of advice I can get!
    Thanks!
     
  2. andytownsend

    andytownsend New Member

    If you said that the OB said you're fine then you're fine. This may be psychological. Are you thinking too much about it? That could affect too. How about foreplay. Have you tried a longer time for foreplay? Maybe you weren't that wet that's why it is quite painful for insertion. Goodluck!
     
  3. Wrangler Jane

    Wrangler Jane New Member

    As far as the semen, I had a friend who once described something similar. She drank a little coke afterwards and it helped, don't know why.
     
  4. labialover

    labialover Member

    1 - If I swallow my cum it makes me burp, so maybe your response is not unusual.

    2 - see your other thread.

    3 - Try using a water based lubricant and plenty of foreplay.
     
  5. louiseh2202

    louiseh2202 New Member

    1) Cant say this has ever happened to me, or at least I've never noticed, so sorry I can't be any help.


    2) I used to find it incredibly hard to achieve orgasm too, with or without a partner. I found that I never climax during intercourse, unless I (or my partner) is rubbing my clitoris simultaneously. I find it easier to orgasm with lots of simultaneous stimulation. Usually with masturbation this means having a butt plug (or similar) in, whilst having one hand playing with my nipples and one rubbing the clitoris too. I found this helps a great deal. Since dating my new boyfriend for the last year I have at least one orgasm everytime we have any sexual conduct, sometimes its the way you feel towards the person and how they make you feel that I think makes a huge difference.


    3) If you have only had sex with one person then its not completely absurd that it hurts and your vagina isn't wide. Look at doing a lot more foreplay if you can, and making sure you actually feel particularly wet before sexual intercourse. Using a lot of lube could help, but I understand that you don't want to solely rely on that. Try using a small dildo and then increasing the size as you get used to the others.
     
  6. mari

    mari New Member

    Do yourself a favor and go by a dildo called, "The RAbbit" They come in many sizes so I'd start small if I were you and take it from there. Never be ashamed of self exploration
     
    Last edited: Oct 30, 2014

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