Hi. So I'm brand new to this, but I really would love some outside advice and input... I'm 34 and my husband (33) and I have been together since we were 16 and 17... had a child right away.. went through little high school dramas but always have been known as the "bonnie and clyde" ride or die type... things use to be perfect and great and we had 2 more children in the past 6 years. (6 & 5). Things were still ok up until about 3 years ago. I am kinda a jealous person and he is as well. We have basically isolated ourselves from all friends at this point. We are never apart...besides when we are working and to be quite frank we have had sex maybe 10 times the past 3 years. Neither one of us are cheating but it really just feels like we are roommates taking care of our kids. He is an amazing dad and he can be sweet to me but things have just gotten to a point where I'm definitely not happy. He sleeps on the couch everyday which I work 3rd shift but on my 2 nights off I'd like to have him in bed. But he will fall asleep on the couch and then I just go to bed when I'm tired. 2 nights ago we had a gift bought for us for dinner and a jacuzzi suite... we went to dinner.. fooled around in the hot tub for about 10 min... he "came" and then it was game over. We got out and he was sleeping in 5 minutes. I've complained about this and him sleeping on the couch endless times. Nothing changes. Then I will be upset and thinking all night and then he wants to wake up all happy like nothing and it really upsets me. He thinks our relationship (17 yrs-married 12) is totally fine and nothing is wrong. I get that things lessen or become more boring or whatever but it still just doesn't feel right. He said he is self conscious n that's why we don't have sex alot. All he wants are bjs... makes me think it's me like I don't get him worked up anymore. Idk.. does this seem normal? I feel like it should be him complaining about not getting enough, not me. And 6 months ago (knowing I'm not allowed to talk to guys) I said maybe I should get a gf...since u don't wanna ever fool around.. he told me I could... spent 3 months finding the right one.. the day we were suppose to meet.. he gives me the puppy face and says he don't want me to now... idk.. I can't believe my life is this messed up now. And I have no one to talk to because I have no friends anymore. Any outside thoughts? Do I sound like I'm just being a spoiled brat? He is a good guy and loves to give me money to go to the casino cuz that's the only thing I do now so whenever I'm upset.. that's his solution.. gives me a few dollars to go there with as long as when I get home I'm not "bitchy" or upset anymore, and because I'm basically addicted now I always take the deal.. but the underlying issue never gets fixed. Just bandaged. I know I'm rambling but any suggestions or input plz??