Should i be with my best friend?

Discussion in 'Dating Advice' started by LandOD, Oct 11, 2017.

  1. LandOD

    LandOD New Member

    About two years ago my really close friend and i kissed. We were really drunk(well, i was, he not so much) and i barely remember. Before that i heard from other friend that he is in love with me and i guess i just wanted to know how he really feels. After that kiss he asked me what i want to do about that, what it meant to me, and something like that, but i told him i want for us to stay just friends.
    Since then we were not so close, meanwhile i found boyfriend, and i didn't see my friend during my relationship, about few months.
    When i broke up we started to see each other again, we rebuild our friendsheep. We were really close all summer.

    Few days ago he told me he is in love with me since that kiss. I wasn't so shocked because there were moments when i thought about that. I told him i'm scared and i don't want to lose him. And then i kissed him, don't know why. I guess i just didn't wanted him to feel bad and that kiss felt right at the moment. At the end i told him i would think about it. He is happy now, he thinks i feel the same. The thing is, i don't know how i feel.

    I think about him all day (don't know what to do), sometimes i imagine our future together, and it feels good. But in the other hand i think about breake up, and how i will lose him, because there's no happy break up. I really need him as a friend, but maybe our friendship is already ruined.

    However, i don't know what to do.
    So, if you could tell me your opinion, and give me some advice i would be very grateful.[​IMG]
  2. drsky

    drsky Member

    Hello Dear,

    If you really are thinking about him and not going further just cuz you think you may lose his friendship if you break up, Then you are not giving this a chance full heartedly.
    Yes losing a friend is tough, but what if he could be the one. Only time can tell.

    you dont need to rush things or get physical right away(since this can confuse love ). Just be together and see if you are both right for each other and if love develops between both of you , and how you interact with each other; and tell him the way you feel about this friendship, that you dont want to lose it in the end. Sometimes good friends can become good partners, since it begins after getting to know one another.

    And if both of you are mature and cool headed and not spiteful, if things may turn sour, you have nothing to worry about.
    And pray to GoD daily(for GOD is love) and help couples and singles seeking love and marriage as much as possible, so that
    positive karma/action will bring love into your life.

    Wish you the best,
  3. Ryan5232

    Ryan5232 New Member

    I say give it a shot. I'm a male and I don't really like how all girls say "But it will ruin our friendship". 9/10 times it doesn't really ruin the friendship. If you think you're compatible then give it a shot. If you don't think you're compatible then things could go down hill. It probably took a lot of guts for him to say how he felt. It's not easy. He may have felt really upset when you had a boyfriend. That's a sign to see that he really cares about you. And just remember, you two are both in charge when it comes to the end of a friendship. If you guys put in the time and effort to rebuild things if something were to go wrong then you don't have a problem. It will be awkward if you break up, but I'd rather have it be awkward and still have a friend then not one at all. I've been telling a bunch of girls to start giving their best guy friends a chance. I'm one of those people who is wishing he can get a chance with his best friend.

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