Alright, this is going to be a long post because I feel all the details need to be told in full. So bickle your seat belts because I'm going strait up IMAX in here. .... To start off, me and my wife married way too early. We met in a certified nurses class and I had just gotten out of a bad relationship. I was not in a good place. I am pretty sure my wife manipulated my due to my problem of the time. Pay in mind I was pretty dull from depression. She was different. She showed plenty of affection from all sides and never had one bad word to say about me or anything that I did. Then came marriage.. After we got married everything seemed to change and her hypocrisy was more and more visible. She hated whenever I spoke to other women but she had no problem speaking to not only other men. Which, I didn't care. I'm not that type but it was the principle of the matter that bothered me. And not only that, she frequently even spoke to many past boyfriends, one in particular really ground my gears. Before I go into detail about that, I want to explain some of the things that did bother me before we got married that she promised she would change but did not... First, she promised me children and even she herself brought the subject to the surface. Before we were married of course. I never thought of children of my own anytime soon but, she had one of her own that I love with all of my heart and treat as my own. Over the next month or two of our marriage I was really excited about the thought... but then she changed her mind and that's because... The second thing she changed, she has a tattoo of an old boyfriend on her arm that she brought up and asked me about and I said I would like it covered up. I know a lot of people have tattoos of the ex's on them. In fact, it's very nearly apart of daily life. View attachment 657 YOU'RE NEXT BABY It's not the fact it's there. It's the fact that she said she would do something and then lied about it after we were married. And now we're onto her ex-boyfriend and why all of this bothered me. She still speaks to him. She frequently has told me how she loved him for X many years and that he was her first love and was the first one to treat her son decent since he's father did not.. And where does she go to see him? Prison. He's in prison. The reason why they split up? He went to prison. The fact she refused to remove the tattoo only after we were married and then continues to write and go out of her way (the prison is quite a number of hours away) to see him just was.. Wrong. Especially if I came within fifty feet within an ex of mine or even asked a lady at my local gym what I should eat to stay healthy. Granted, no one came to see him, and with the crime he committed, it's no big surprise. But, that still shouldn't give you an excuse to go against what your husband wants even though you know it hurts him. Especially considering I have gone out of my way and even cut off pockets of friends just to keep her happy. Now before I go into more about her, I want to talk about my problems and what her viewpoint of them are. No holding back. Self mutilation incoming and ready to impress. :bananna: I have spent the last ten years of my life taking care of the sick and helpless. I do not have much family and cherish everyone that is close to me. My mother fell ill after a complication to surgery in the late 90's then proceeded to development a debilitating, unknown form of A.L.S. A.L.S is known to numb certain parts of the body at any given day and instead of being a random gamble and feeling would return, it did not. It started at her toes and worked its way up until she could no longer walk by 2005. I left junior high school to take care of her but got my G.E.D later in life with shining scores. School wasn't teaching me much anyway. My mother passed in June of 2009 after the numbness reached her lungs and she refused to live on a ventilator. I do not blame her. Now comes round two of this nightmare. I was helping my R.N grandmother take care of my mother. Now, my grandmother, 73, is dying. Slowly. And for reasons unknown. One day she'll be up around and active then the next we're not sure if she is going to make it another forty eight hours. Last year was the worst year. This happened at least 4 times. She can no longer walk and depends on me to take care of her. She honestly needs twenty four hour care but we cannot afford to pay anyone. She wanted to give me and my little brother her house (about two months before she went downhill) because she had said it was the last thing she had to give... But now Medicade wants us to sell her house, the house she and my grandfather ( who just died in May) built, whom she herself just closed out her retirement to the hospital she worked at for twenty five years to close out a mortgage, to pay for the nursing care. I have no other family to help, either. An arthritic brother and uncle. That's all the family I have left. My wife resents the fact I take care of her and says that, "I never have time for her anymore." When she lived with me, all my time that was not with her was with her and her son. I even potty trained the young boy because his father would not. I cannot roam the streets forty hours of the week because I have a sick and injured, elderly woman who helped me my entire life and now needs help. We split up in November.. Not because of any of the things that I listed.. But because we had a roaring storm blow through our town that was blowing the back door open and I had lock it to keep water from rushing in. She works a part time job and was going for the door and I saw her doing this. I ran to it as soon as I could and she was locked out for two point five seconds. She proceeded to hit me with a glass portrait we had hanging up next to the wall... And when I stood in front of her to tell her I was sorry for the door and asked her why, she bit me in the arm so hard I will have a scar the rest of my life. She returned later and dressed my wounds.. Crying that she needed to change. A lie of course. A month and a half into the "change" she quit trying at all and even refuses to speak to me sometimes. She has become more and more bitter about the fact I take care of my bedbound grandmother and has even said if I want to come see her I know where she lives... This month.. My grandmother has had one near fatal heart attack and a bad fall that hair line fractured one of her vertebrae.. I called my wife off the hook because I needed emotional nurturing because of the pain I was in. I was told separation meant space and that I needed to quit stalking her.. I That's all the larger details.. Just want to know what everyone thinks?? What should I do?